So long, farewell. Partners and supportive friends and family will usually be back at work now. Who else can pop round?
If you can get outside pop you little one in a sling or the pram and go for a walk in the park. Take your time and reconnect with nature, treat yourself to a coffee or an ice cream, enjoy!
Get to know your little one. Remember how it felt when you fell in love with your partner?
You wanted to be with them all the time and find out everything you could about them. It’s the same with babies – keep them close and get to know them, and learn how they are always communicating with you through their body and their expressions.
Prepare a note for your front door ‘shh, my baby is asleep!’
Sleep when your baby sleeps – a luxury you will have only with your first child!
Why do babies cry just when you sit down for dinner??
Finding it hard and missing the simple pleasure of dinner together and a chat? Why not plan meals that could be prepared at a quieter time of the day or give in to a few ready meals, which can be ready to eat at a moment’s notice? Better still, ‘meals on wheels’ from a family member or friend who has asked how they can help.
If trying to calm your little one isn’t working, take a few moments to think what it is that you can change about your methods and/or approach to your baby’s behaviour during physical or emotional growth spurts when they may need to be handled differently. We can’t change our babies so we need to change our behaviour towards them.
Haste and hurry can only bear children with many regrets along the way. ~Senegalese Proverb
A CALMING TOOLKIT
- Unscented massage oil
- A muslin cloth to play peek a boo
- Music – CD/ iPod and so on
- Singing – lullaby, nonsense song, or something you make up
- Walking and dancing with your baby
- Getting outside in the fresh air
- Phoning a friend, mum or a helpline
- Putting the radio on
- Deep breathing, breath in for a count of 4 and out for a count of 8
- www.sheilakitzinger.com/birthcrisis.htm Birth crisis helpline for support
- Placing your hands calmly on your baby’s abdomen or chest and breathing deeply to help calm you and your baby
Remember, it takes 12 weeks for your baby’s melatonin hormone to be produced which helps them go to sleep. Darkness helps promote the production of this hormone, so ensure your bedroom is dark when putting your little one in their cot /Moses basket. Interestingly, daylight also helps produce melatonin so try to get outside in the daylight with your baby.
You may end up co-sleeping at some time with your little one. Read up about this to ensure you do it safely.
It’s easy to say you won’t co-sleep because it’s not safe, but many parents do when they are exhausted. Make a plan and discuss it with your partner after looking at the safe sleep guidance.
LINK: Safe sleep for babies
Sleep deprivation goes with the territory. Look at how much sleep you are getting rather than how little. Check out Cry-sis for tips on coping when tired.
Gentle massage relaxes us and our babies. Take five deep in breaths with long slow out breaths in between, releasing and letting go of all tension. Recall your breathing during the birth.
Your birth ball is still a useful aid, sit on your ball with your baby (feet firmly on the floor) and you can gently bounce up and down to save walking around.
Feeling weary? Take a bath on your own and ask your partner to keep baby out of earshot so you can completely switch off. Or ask someone to take baby for a stroll round the block in the pram.